On those occasions when I have to leave the comfy couch with the fluffy pillows, it's not that unpleasant to go outside! I may have lost my magic white person talent of making small children cry, but I can get them to stare at me so hard they run into things and perhaps fall down, and then I laugh. More importantly, strange men on the street don't ask me to marry them or be their girlfriends or try to look down my shirt! My general impression from about two weeks in a country I know very little about and don't speak the language of is that the gentlemen of China are very courteous and respectful. I was in the pole room of the gym, practicing the few pole tricks I can do, and some men who were present doing stretching things were careful not to bother or even really look at me. At work, the flock of young male engineers who build cables and wire things for me (I love having a flock of engineers at my bidding) are courteous and respectful and kind of shy and carry things for me. Such the pleasant change from Tanzania!
Today's dinner: mango sundaes and iced coffee. China is great. Not really from a human right or environmentalist perspective, but other than that it's great.
I'm sorry about the spot of bother. Just remember the words of Magnan to Retief:
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Ehh, I know you are trying to inject humor into the situation, but unfortunately one of the impediments to ending street harassment as an accepted cultural practice is non-participants making light of it as an experience. If harassment does consist of just words, which may or may not be the case, the words contribute to a constant barrage of entitlement by strangers to another person's time and body, often leading to reduced participation in public life by the harassed. The wonderful people at the Hollaback Project have some great resources and research.
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As a woman, I want to add that even being stared at (not a friendly stare) is creepy to the point of terrifying. Not a little thing.
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